Get To Know People

July 22, 2011

The concept of getting to know people sounds very simplistic, but you would be surprised at how many of us do not really pursue it.  We are more focused on ourselves than we are another person.  Even while carrying on a conversation, or brains are thinking “me, I” instead of “you, your.”  Quite often, we will forget someone’s name five minutes after the conversation is over, since our minds were elsewhere while the other person was speaking, or we were too eager to speak than we were to listen.

Getting to know at least a small bit about another person does more than just create friendships.  It may also open up opportunities for you that you are not aware of in the moment.  For example, you meet a gentleman outside of your favorite restaurant, and discover that he is carpenter by trade.  If you keep this information in your mind, you may be able to call on him when you need carpentry done, and he may call on you for your expertise in your trade.  In addition to finding ways to get things done, some people have found their dream jobs through people they met briefly and got to know.

Even throughout your work day, getting to know the people around you not only helps you in your work, but can have the advantage of improving morale – both yours and theirs.  Asking Mary how her little girl is doing or asking Michael how his house renovation is going shows that you care for that person and that you were paying attention when they spoke.  In learning even some of the smallest details about a person, you are given the opportunity to build positive friendships and keep each other motivated in whatever you do.

Dale Carnegie once said, “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by getting other people interested in you.”  Learning how to get to know people can take you far if you are willing to listen to what other people are telling you.  Listening is a learned art, and once it is mastered getting to know people will seem quite easy.  Get that “me, I” mentality out of the way, and you will see that you actually enjoy meeting new people and making new friends.

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One Response to Get To Know People

  1. Keira O'Flaherty on December 22, 2015 at 11:56 pm

    Great post. Of all your blogs I think this has probably been my favourite. Catch you later.

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