Four Steps to Getting the Most Out of Your Speaking Efforts

August 21, 2012

As great a speaker as he was, Lincoln felt shy for the few opening moments of his many speeches. His law partner, William Herndon, said, “At first he was very awkward, and it seemed a real labor to adjust himself to his surroundings. He struggled for a time under a feeling of apparent diffidence and sensitiveness, and these only added to his awkwardness. I have often seen and sympathized with Mr. Lincoln during these moments. When he began speaking, his voice was shrill, piping, and unpleasant. His manner, his attitude, his dark, yellow face, wrinkled and dry, his oddity of pose, his diffident movements—everything seemed to be against him, but only for a short time.”

Of course, Lincoln overcame his challenges and went on to become one of the greatest orators this country has ever seen. If you find your experience in public speaking to be the same as Lincoln’s was in the beginning, here are four essential steps to take from your friends at Dale Carnegie Training of Maryland and the DC Metro Area:

Start with a strong and persistent desire — Arouse your enthusiasm and think what it can mean to you financially, socially and in terms of increased influence and leadership. Remember that upon the depth of your desire will depend the swiftness of your progress.

Prepare — You can’t feel confident unless you know what you are going to say.

Act confident — Professor William James said, “To feel brave, act as if we were brave, use all of our will to that end, and a courage fit will very likely replace the fit of fear.” You can conquer your fear of audiences by taking advantage of this psychological fact.

Practice — Fear is the result of a lack of confidence; and a lack of confidence is the result of not knowing what you can do; and that is caused by a lack of experience. So get a record of successful experience behind you, and your fears will vanish.

For more information on getting the most out of your speaking efforts, join us for an upcoming Dale Carnegie Course: Effective Communications & Human Relations/Skills for Success.  

This post is brought to you by Dale Carnegie Training of Maryland and the DC Metro Area. We would love to connect with you on Facebook and Twitter.

Photo credit: AscensionDigital


Send to Kindle

Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badge